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La La Anthony and her husband Carmelo Anthony have experienced ups and downs in their marriage.  However, these things only made their relationship stronger.  In 2004, there was an incident which could have destroyed Carmelo career.

According to reports, La La ex-fiancé and Carmelo had a fight in a certain club.  Some people adored him for defending his woman while others fear that he might lose his endorsement opportunities.  Later on, when Carmelo was interviewed he said that “he only did what any man would have done for their woman.”

Now, despite the fact that the couple is having a strong relationship, La La still recalls the abuse from her ex.  During her interview at Sway In The Morning to promote her new book, she said:

“You know and it was my first love and I felt like he was controlling me because he loved me and that’s how he’s showing me that he loved me. And it was later on that I realized that was completely wrong and that’s a message I want to get out to young women out there. That’s not love.”

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She also chatted about the worst moments in this abuse, she revealed:

“Throwing plates of food at me. Breaking glasses. Always being really angry and upset. I was like, ‘This can’t be love.’ Love shouldn’t feel like this. I would tell myself that and continue to stay. It could be the smallest thing–that could be your breaking point. And I remember calling my dad like, ‘Dad, I need you to come and get me.’ I hadn’t even talked to my dad because I had isolated anyone who wasn’t a fan of the relationship. Anyone that didn’t say anything good, I didn’t want to talk to them. I said, ‘Dad, you got to come get me.’ Literally, my dad just got in the car and drove up there to come pick me up. It’s a defining moment to my life that I’ll never forget.”

What are your thoughts about the past abuse?

Photo Credits: Sways Universe, Micah Jesse

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Yesterday, La La Anthony was busy with her book signing at Barnes & Nobles in Tribeca.  Aside from the book signing, there was also a Q&A.  La La’s new book which is entitled, “The Love Playbook,” is now available in different stores.  In this book, she offers some tips and advice with regards to sex, love as well as marriage based from her very own personal encounters.

Here are the four lessons that you can learn from La La:

The first lesson is “Rule Of Thumb For First Dates: Go Alone”

La La said:

“Here is the number one thing: Do not bring your friends with you to your first date please! Alright? We don’t need tagalongs. Go to the date. Be confident. Bring yourself. I see so many [people] that are like, ‘Yeah, I’m going to meet this guy, it’s my first date. And I’m bringing three of my friends.’ That’s not cool! So let’s not bring tagalongs to our first date, OK?”

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The second lesson is “Men like a woman who is doing her own thing”

La La said:

“I think a man is attracted to an independent woman. Someone who has their own thing going on. And it’s different forms of being independent. Everybody is not meant to run a Fortune 500 company, that might not be everybody’s dream. But you could have a hobby, you can have something you’re into [in order] to bring to the table. Bring something that makes you valuable to the relationship and make sure you never feel like you have to depend on a man for anything. Have your own. So definitely independence is attractive to a man.”

The third lesson is “Be open to communicating and teaching him how to love you the way you want to be loved”

La La revealed:

“You know, I did feel like [I had to show Carmelo things.] In all relationships, that’s what it’s about. It’s a learning experience for both. You want to be able to teach each other things so there are also things he taught me and I was able to teach him things and I feel like that’s what a healthy relationship is about.”

“So you know, at first, he had his ways, and he wasn’t that affectionate and I was like ‘I want someone more affectionate,’ so through love and guiding him, I was able to get him to become more affectionate. You know, you just have to show people what you want and he did the same with me so it worked for us!”

And lastly, “When you are engaged, it’s okay to enjoy the moment versus rushing to get down the aisle”

La La shared:

“Enjoy the moment. Enjoy what’s happening and live in the moment… We’re always running and so busy and thinking about the next thing that you don’t enjoy the moment. So take your time and enjoy the engagement and the moment. And there is no rush! I was engaged for a very long time and people put me through the ringer for it. [They said] that I was going to be engaged forever and never get married but guess what? I did it my way and my marriage has lasted longer than half those people that were talking all of that stuff before. So do it your way and enjoy it.”

What can you say about these four love lessons?

Photo Credits: I Am Not A Stalker, Global Grind