Tagged: ‘Grace’

Lupita Nyong’o Lupita Nyong’o

Actress Lupita Nyong’o is someone who can catch attention whenever she walks in the room.  She is someone who does not only possess beauty but also grace and style.  However, during her speech at Essence’s 7th Annual Black Women in Hollywood last night, she revealed how she was struggling in embracing her black skin.  She also admitted that she is hoping that one day she could have a lighter complexion.  The following is her speech:

“I want to take this opportunity to talk about beauty, black beauty, dark beauty. I received a letter from a girl and I’d like to share just a small part of it with you: “Dear Lupita,” it reads, “I think you’re really lucky to be this Black but yet this successful in Hollywood overnight. I was just about to buy Dencia’s Whitenicious cream to lighten my skin when you appeared on the world map and saved me.”

“My heart bled a little when I read those words, I could never have guessed that my first job out of school would be so powerful in and of itself and that it would propel me to be such an image of hope in the same way that the women of The Color Purple were to me.”

Lupita Nyong’o Lupita Nyong’o

“I remember a time when I too felt unbeautiful. I put on the TV and only saw pale skin, I got teased and taunted about my night-shaded skin. And my one prayer to God, the miracle worker, was that I would wake up lighter-skinned. The morning would come and I would be so excited about seeing my new skin that I would refuse to look down at myself until I was in front of a mirror because I wanted to see my fair face first. And every day I experienced the same disappointment of being just as dark as I was the day before.”

“And when I was a teenager my self-hate grew worse, as you can imagine happens with adolescence. My mother reminded me often that she thought that I was beautiful but that was no conservation, she’s my mother, of course she’s supposed to think I am beautiful. And then…Alek Wek. A celebrated model, she was dark as night, she was on all of the runways and in every magazine and everyone was talking about how beautiful she was. Even Oprah called her beautiful and that made it a fact. I couldn’t believe that people were embracing a woman who looked so much like me, as beautiful. My complexion had always been an obstacle to overcome and all of a sudden Oprah was telling me it wasn’t. It was perplexing and I wanted to reject it because I had begun to enjoy the seduction of inadequacy. But a flower couldn’t help but bloom inside of me, when I saw Alek I inadvertently saw a reflection of myself that I could not deny. Now, I had a spring in my step because I felt more seen, more appreciated by the far away gatekeepers of beauty. But around me the preference for my skin prevailed, to the courters that I thought mattered I was still unbeautiful. And my mother again would say to me you can’t eat beauty, it doesn’t feed you and these words plagued and bothered me; I didn’t really understand them until finally I realized that beauty was not a thing that I could acquire or consume, it was something that I just had to be.”

“And what my mother meant when she said you can’t eat beauty was that you can’t rely on how you look to sustain you. What is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself and for those around you. That kind of beauty enflames the heart and enchants the soul. It is what got Patsey in so much trouble with her master, but it is also what has kept her story alive to this day. We remember the beauty of her spirit even after the beauty of her body has faded away.”

“And so I hope that my presence on your screens and in the magazines may lead you, young girl, on a similar journey. That you will feel the validation of your external beauty but also get to the deeper business of being beautiful inside.”

She ended the speech by saying:

“There is no shame in black beauty.”

Isn’t it an incredible speech?

Photo Credits: NY Daily News, IB Times

Bishop Freddy Edwards and Marvin Williams Bishop Freddy Edwards and Marvin Williams

A single mother from Detroit felt sad when Rev. Marvin Winans refused to bless her baby.  Charity Grace, an unwed mother from Detroit, want her son Joshua to receive a blessing from the Perfecting Church, but unfortunately she was denied.  Early this week, she called up the church because she wanted pastor Winans to conduct the event but according to the church representative, Pastor Winans does not bless those babies whose mothers are unwed.  Grace revealed:

“I want to instill values and morals in my son based upon the word of God. I told them I was not married and that’s where everything just broke loose.I’ve never felt so degraded and disrespected in my life. What they could do for me is let my son get dedicated, during a week day with one of the elders of my choice. I absolutely would not set foot back in the church right now because I feel like they look down upon me and my kind, meaning single moms and unwed mothers. The church should be the last place you should go to be judged and denied.”

Gospel Singer Fred Hammond and Pastor Marvin Winans Gospel Singer Fred Hammond and Pastor Marvin Winans

However, a local pastor defended Grace saying that she should not be denied.  He said:

“Every pastor has set up the pattern of his church, the way he feels or deems fit. But as it relates to the scripture, I feel like it’s wrong. I  feel like we’re judging, but we’re not judging with righteous judgement. I’m not speaking against the pastor, but sometimes we make poor decisions.”

So far, there were no comments from Winans and The Perfecting Church.  What do you think?  Is this behavior found in the biblical scripture?

Photo Credits: The Jasmine Brand

‘Grace’, the new album of Tasha Cobbs is #2 on the Billboard chart for the Top Gospel Albums.  Cobbs is also considered as this week’s gospel artist with the highest and best selling debut album in the country.  The album ‘Grace’ is produced by VaShawn Mitchell, who is also an award winning and talented recording artist.


The Grace DeLuxe Edition became the number 1 Gospel Album on Amazon and iTunes chart even before the album was released.  ‘Break Every Chain’ is Cobbs new single which continues to become number 1 on gospel radio and on the Billboard chart for Top Digital Gospel Song.  This week, it landed number 6 on the Billboard chart for Hot Gospel Songs.


Cobbs is now busy with her Break Every Chain Promotional Tour where she will be visiting different states.

Congratulations to Tasha Cobbs on her new best-selling album “Grace“!