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La La Anthony and her husband Carmelo Anthony have experienced ups and downs in their marriage.  However, these things only made their relationship stronger.  In 2004, there was an incident which could have destroyed Carmelo career.

According to reports, La La ex-fiancé and Carmelo had a fight in a certain club.  Some people adored him for defending his woman while others fear that he might lose his endorsement opportunities.  Later on, when Carmelo was interviewed he said that “he only did what any man would have done for their woman.”

Now, despite the fact that the couple is having a strong relationship, La La still recalls the abuse from her ex.  During her interview at Sway In The Morning to promote her new book, she said:

“You know and it was my first love and I felt like he was controlling me because he loved me and that’s how he’s showing me that he loved me. And it was later on that I realized that was completely wrong and that’s a message I want to get out to young women out there. That’s not love.”

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She also chatted about the worst moments in this abuse, she revealed:

“Throwing plates of food at me. Breaking glasses. Always being really angry and upset. I was like, ‘This can’t be love.’ Love shouldn’t feel like this. I would tell myself that and continue to stay. It could be the smallest thing–that could be your breaking point. And I remember calling my dad like, ‘Dad, I need you to come and get me.’ I hadn’t even talked to my dad because I had isolated anyone who wasn’t a fan of the relationship. Anyone that didn’t say anything good, I didn’t want to talk to them. I said, ‘Dad, you got to come get me.’ Literally, my dad just got in the car and drove up there to come pick me up. It’s a defining moment to my life that I’ll never forget.”

What are your thoughts about the past abuse?

Photo Credits: Sways Universe, Micah Jesse

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Lee Daniels is a well-known director who is made famous by his projects such as Halle Berry’s Monster’s Ball and others.  The 54-year-old director recently visited The Arsenio Hall Show to talk about a lot of things including the abuse that he experienced from his father as well as coming out of the closet.

What made him decide to come out of the closet?  He replied:

“There was never a closet. My earliest memories were coming the stairs in my mothers high heels at six-years-old while my dad’s playing cards with the buddies. Imagine that. I grew up in the ghetto..I think it’s great that African women have embraced me and embraced my work and made me the man that I am. And so I’m in a good place, I’ve always been embraced. I’m not embarrassed about it, its always been a great place for me.”

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When his father knew that he was gay, how did he react?  Lee said:

“He was embarrassed, I think. And I didn’t understand why he was so hard on me about being gay. And Arsenio, I didn’t realize until after I did ‘The Butler’ that at that time he was a second-class citizen and that he was called ****. He wasn’t a man. And so when he saw that I was gay he thought that that was even — ‘Oh my God, this kid, what is this kid going to encounter?’ It’s bad enough. After doing ‘The Butler’ and doing so much research, I understood where his head set was at and I forgave him and I love him. I did ‘Precious’ because I didn’t understand where that was coming from. I do it all therapeutically, its for me, it’s selfish. It’s all about me because I can’t afford therapy.”

Did his father abuse him?  He revealed:

“I don’t think it was intentional. I think it was because he was beaten and his father was tied to a tree and beaten, His fathers father was a slave and so I think that that was generational. He didn’t have the skills. What’s hard for me, when my kid tells me, ‘No I ain’t doing it’.. it takes everything I have to undo whats been taught. You know it’s generational.”

What can you say about Lee’s confirmation that he is gay?

Photo Credits: She Knows, The YBF